Okay so. Beware this blog post might be a little sensitive. So to people who will be reading don't take offense to this.

There is a book titled "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus" which shows how man and woman are so different in almost everything they do, think, act and many more. Same goes when it comes to communication and language, both man and woman uses different ways to communicate or use language. This may be a positive or negative thing.

From the book it is said that men are more logical and women are more emotional, thus when communication takes place men are more results oriented and prefer a more straightforward approach with the easiest route to the end, while women tend to communicate in a manner that is conducive and focused on building and salvaging relationships.

As that is said, we could tell that man and woman perceive things very differently. Something said by man for example could be taken in a totally whole different meaning by a woman. I guess God made man and woman different to compliment each other. Personally, I think there are many times this difference could lead to horrible stuff happening especially when it is communication in a relationship.

Example in this situation where a couple who just fought and before ending the fight the girl told the guy to have a day to think and work things out the next day. This is an example of how a conversation went so wrong with so little words.

Girl: So, what do u have to say for yourself.
Guy: I have nothing to say.
Girl: That shows that u just don't care about us.
Guy: I do care.
Girl: No, u don't. If you did you would try to say something.
Guy: Whatever i have in mind will make things worse.
Girl: Fine then. Don't talk to me.

Sounds cheesy? Yeah well cheesy or not, I can assure you it does and has happen.So you see, for the guy he just doesn't want to make things worse by not saying so much (easy way out) but for the girl, she takes it as he doesn't care about their relationship (emotional). Which in this case could totally wreck a relationship, due to the difference in man and woman in communicating. Especially if they aren't talking face to face! E.g: internet relationships.

This proves a statement in the book "Man are from Mars and Women are from Venus" that states, "Women are also more inclined to talk things out than a man would. Women want to resolve conflicts, or perceived conflicts, by discussing various aspects of the situation. They want to rehash the topic over and over until it has been worked over and wrung dry of useful information. Men, on the other hand, tend to clam up, preferring to refrain from discussing the issue, or "saying their piece" and then moving on. This can cause problems between men and women because the man shuts down and the woman feels neglected."

Okay well, besides love based relationship, these kind of misunderstanding can also happen between any man and woman whether they are friends or families. Whether its some jokes that may be taken too far, or comments that are took too sensitively it can happen between the same gender too as 2 people usually have different perceptions. But since we are talking about gender difference, to a girl when guys make a mistake, guys are jerks! (totally true in my state of mind right now, so don't mind me) and for guys when girls make a mistake, girls are just being too sensitive.

Let's talk a little of biology. "Gender Difference in Language Appear Biologically" is the title of research done by the Northwestern University and the University of Haifa. According to their findings, language processing is more sensory in boys and more abstract in girls. Also, the researchers found that girls still showed significantly greater activation in language areas of the brain than boys. Which tells us? Haha. Well its obvious, so i ain't stating it.

Reference:
1) Northwestern University, 2008, Boys' And Girls' Brains Are Different: Gender Differences In Language Appear Biological, ScienceDaily, online, retrieved on 13th September 2008, from http://www.sciencedaily.com­ /releases/2008/03/080303120346.htm

2) Leslie, T. ,2008, Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus!, retrieved on 13th September 13, 2008, from http://ezinearticles.com/?Men-Are-From-Mars,-Women-Are-From-Venus!&id=969335